Magick for Love & Romance

You've probably heard it a hundred times before; "Never use magic to make someone fall in love with you." Sometimes they will add, "magick doesn't work for that stuff anyway." People who say that are wrong... but there is a caveat. We'll get to that later.

The honest truth is, people who don't have first-hand knowledge of something will often repeat what they heard or read as if they know it to be true. They don't KNOW it to be true, they merely think it so. The same people who say magick is powerless in the affairs of the heart will sometimes also say that magick cannot be used to hurt or even kill someone. These people are mistaken on both counts.

Over the years, many individuals have asked me to use magick to help them win the love and attention of someone they lust after. Sometimes I consented, sometimes I didn't. There will be some who read this post who will judge me severely for using Black Magick to earn money. I do not deny these accusations. I have no need for the approval of others in my magickal practice. I abide my own judgment and do not recognize the authority of other humans (especially people who claim they "speak for God") to decide what I should or should not do with my abilities.

The truth of the matter is that people who understand the TRUE nature of the magickal force, do not see it in Black, White or Grey terms. Magick is a neutral force like electricity or gravity. It is only "good or bad" depending on HOW you use it. For example, gravity is a "good" force when used with a paperweight on your desk or to let fall the rains that water the earth's vegetation. Gravity is "bad" when you push someone off a cliff and use it to kill them. Like electricity or sunlight, gravity is a neutral force. It is the human manipulator that may turn it to good or evil ends.

The Caveat:

Earlier on, I said there was a "caveat" when it came to using magick to make someone fall in love with you. People approach me and want me to "make" so and so fall in love with them. To be clear; I don't "make" people do anything. Free will is a big deal in my book and I do not tamper with it. My success rate in these affairs is near 100% but I never try to "make" people do anything they would not choose to do willingly if the right circumstances should present themselves. That would be unethical. Call me a sorcerer or Black magician if you like, but I don't work magick that is harmful to any living creature. I do not use my gifts to make people go against their own moral code. I don't use my gifts to break up families or cause someone to cheat on their partner, for example.

Here's something else I've discovered in my travels: You CAN get two people into bed together for really hot sex. You CAN arrange circumstances that are ideal for romance to grow, and you CAN make a client more attractive to a person or people of choice. Some traditions call this casting a "glamour" spell. But know this: if you are an unlovable person who will abuse and mistreat your partner if you fail to show the qualities your partner wants in a mate, then there is no magick I know of that will make them stay with you.

A man, a sorcerer of some skill I gather, once swore to me that he could force ANY person to fall in love with another person. We had a fundamental difference of philosophy on this point. I asked him, "Even if what you say is true, what man wants the "love" of a woman who has been forced and has no choice in the matter? What kind of love is that!?" I told him what he was creating was SLAVES.

Simple advice:

Allow me to offer some simple advice, whether you choose to employ magick or not in your love quest. It's guaranteed to make your search easier and the relationship you find last longer!

1) Be yourself! The world already has too many idiots pretending to be something they are not. Nobody wants a fake cardboard partner.

2) Don't focus on saying the right words to the person you want. Instead, focus on giving off the kind of vibe another person would want to be around.

3) Be considerate of your partner's feelings and preferences. Everything doesn't have to be about YOU!

4) Listen- I mean really listen- to what he/she says.

5) If she gives you her cell or lets you friend her on Facebook, for God's sake, don't become a texting STALKER!! That's the best way to raise your "creepy" factor and push her away.

6) Know the difference between LOVE and LUST. The two are often confused. Sure they can overlap, but if you want love that means building a relationship of trust and friendship. Anything less than that is just f*cking.

Last words:

If you are STILL looking for a magickal fix here are a few ideas. Feel free to try your own variations.

1) Combine imagination with some small symbolic/ritual act. For instance, you can imagine your beloved lying in bed beside you at night, just before you fall asleep. Have a pillow on "His/her" side of the bed. kiss it goodnight and be sure to say, "I love you." Don't forget! Do the same in the morning.

2) If you have a picture of the person you want, join it together with a picture of you. Put this pic somewhere you'll see it every day. Feel free to write positive statements in PRESENT TENSE on the picture about your blazing love for each other, if you wish.

3) If you wear cologne, put a ritual dab (don't shower it!) Imagine it is a potion that will attract the one you adore.

This may sound ridiculous to some people but, at its core, magick is about directing the force of will to a specific purpose. It is not unlike taking the defused light of the sun and using a magnifying glass to focus it to a tiny powerful point, or in your case, a powerful purpose. It's not about the perfume having "magickal powers." It doesn't. It's just regular perfume! It's about focusing your mind to mentally raise the vibration of that perfume or liquid (it can even be water) to a higher level.

There are hundreds of ways to focus your magickal mind and strong emotions toward your goal. Feel free to use some simple act as a ritual or, perhaps, an item, a piece of jewelry, a photograph, poem or even a song dedicated to your magickal mission.

Whatever method you use, it will work best if it feels right and fits well with you as an individual. Don't buy into the myth that you must follow somebody's exact words, have "required" tools, or use traditional methods of spell-casting to work magick. There is nothing at all wrong with those methods but never forget that magick is a power that can be manipulated in COUNTLESS ways- as many ways as there are people!

If you have any questions or comments feel free to post them here.